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Why Do Toxic Relationships Last So Long?
Toxic relationships also tend to be long-term relationships. What’s up with that?
Some of my longest-lasting relationships were also my most toxic relationships. And when I talk to other people who have also been in toxic relationships, that seems to hold true for many, if not most, of them as well.
With all the talk these days about toxic relationships, red flags, and how to recognize an unhealthy relationship before it starts, it’s easy to wonder how we can not only end up in toxic relationships, but how we can stay in them as long as we do. Why don’t we learn from all the articles, coaches, therapists, and others who seem to be able to so clearly see the problem long before we do?
Rest assured, it doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you. If you’ve been in one or more toxic relationships and you’re wondering what the deal is, you’re normal. You’re not weak or stupid — in fact, some of the most successful, intelligent and strongest people can find themselves in toxic relationships.
So what is going on here? Why do toxic relationships last so long before we see them for what they are and get out?
