Who Comes First: Significant Other or Grown Children?

Things can get a little murky when you’re dating and have adult children

Wendy Miller


Images by Terri Cnudde from Pixabay

II wrote an article last week about dating in my 40s and how it’s different from dating when I was younger. Most of those changes, for me anyway, are the result of being divorced and having kids.

I had someone comment on the article with a great question about prioritizing your partner and your kids when your kids are grown. I thought about simply replying to their comment but then I realized I had so much to say that it was better as its own piece.

So let’s dive in, shall we?

I have two sons, only one of which is currently what could be considered “grown.” He is 19 and has a full-time job, bought his own truck, but is still living at home right now. My other son is 16, so not quite an adult but not quite a child who needs me to constantly parent him.

This means I’m still somewhat new to the world of dating with adult children. But I do have some experience and I’ve also given a lot of thought to it.

Young children vs. adult children

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