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What Doesn’t Help You Get Over Divorce
There are a few things that will keep you mired in divorce negativity
Yesterday was the anniversary of when I got married. And next month is the anniversary of when my divorce was finalized. Different years, but the anniversaries being so close together make it impossible to forget either one.
It’s been 20 years since I got married, and almost 17 since I got divorced. In those 17 years, I’ve had more than enough time to heal and move on. But here’s the thing: in the early years after the divorce, I didn’t heal and move on.
In fact, I lived stuck in the divorce mud. For at least eight years, I was mired in that quicksand. I was filled with bitterness, anger, resentment, and any other negative feeling you can imagine toward my former husband.
Eventually, I learned how to let it all go. I learned what worked for getting over the divorce — the divorce that was my decision, by the way. And I learned what didn’t work for getting over it.
So instead of telling you the things you should do to get over divorce today, I’m going to tell you what you shouldn’t do.
