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Trying to Heal From Divorce? These 8 Tips Might Help
Whether it’s a divorce or a really bad breakup, some endings prove a little harder to get over than others.
The end of a relationship is filled with conflicting feelings. We’re angry, heartbroken, and relieved. We still love our ex, but we also hate them. We want them back and we’re ready to move on and find someone new. Whether you initiated the ending or they did, it can be hell trying to figure out just how you feel about it.
All this confusion can also make it difficult to get over it. Trying to sort out our feelings can cause us to spend far too long lost in memories that only confuse things more. But ignoring our feelings just means it will all come back later — and maybe be a whole lot worse.
There are some very practical steps you can take that will help you heal from a major breakup more quickly. They’re particularly helpful in a divorce, where everything about your life is completely upended, possibly even including your identity.
Allow yourself to grieve
When we hear the word grieve, we immediately think of death. We grieve the passing of loved ones, but what about the passing of a relationship? Grief, and its stages, applies to the end of a romance too. We…
