Tired of Making Plans You Don’t Keep? Use These Tips for Change!

Whether you’re an introvert or have other reasons for constantly canceling plans, there are some things you can do to start making plans you actually want to keep.

Remember the reason you’re getting together

Whether you’re planning a date with your significant other or a night out with friends, the first step to making plans you’ll want to keep is remembering the reason for the plans: to spend some quality time together.

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Confirm budgets and stress levels

Financial constraints can be a big reason for canceling plans. We agree to do something when we’re doing good, but then we have car trouble that costs hundreds or thousands to repair or some other unexpected expense, and suddenly, that pricey weekend away is more than we can afford.

Keep your weekend plans realistic

Friday and Saturday nights are party nights. On Monday morning, or even in the evening, we’re still bright and fresh and looking forward to letting off some steam on the weekend. But by Friday or Saturday night, we’re tired, wanting to recover from work, and often just wanting to stay home and chill with a glass of wine and something on Netflix.

Plan early but not too early

It’s good to get plans on everyone’s schedule before it gets all booked up with other things. But if you plan too far in advance, finances and other priorities may still require canceling.

Keep one day for yourself

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Create a list of go-to plans

Sometimes we want to bail on plans we made just because we really don’t want to do whatever it is we planned. That’s why it can help to have a go-to list of plans. This list should be things you always enjoy doing and that don’t require much effort or advance planning for you or anyone else.

You’re in charge

Above all, when making plans remember that you’re in charge. You can, and should, say no when you really don’t want to do something. If you’re not sure, be honest and say so. Don’t let people coerce or bully you into doing things you don’t want to do.

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