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Three Secrets I Needed to Know When I Became a Single Parent
These were the things that helped me find my feet as a single mom
Being a single mom was never on my radar until I actually decided to divorce my ex-husband. It was only then that I realized I was going to be taking on the full duties of parenthood entirely alone — and it was a terrifying thought.
After all, my soon-to-be ex-husband wasn’t the greatest dad in the world — he barely did anything at all with my son — but he was a warm body. He was someone who, in a pinch, I could turn to and say, “You will do this because I need it done, so go fucking do it!” and expect him to go do it. Having to demand he be a parent wasn’t pleasant, but it was a safety net I had come to rely on.
What would I do once I was parenting alone? Who would I turn to when I needed help? How would I stay on top of all the big and small things that come with parenting? Could I even do this all alone?
There were so many questions and so few answers. But as the divorce progressed and I began to parent alone, including giving birth to my second son, I began to figure some things out.
And these are the three biggest secrets I figured out and really needed to know.
