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The Worst Dating Advice I’ve Ever Heard
Maybe you think you’re being helpful but this advice just annoys single women (and probably men, too)
There was a time when being single felt like a flaw to me. If I didn’t have a boyfriend (or a husband), I felt like it said something about me and my character. Over the years, through a lot of work, I came to not only understand that being single is not a flaw but to actively enjoy being single.
There’s a freedom that comes with being single that makes getting into another relationship a little less inviting and exciting. That’s not to say I don’t want one — I do — but I enjoy being single so much that I won’t give it up for just any old guy that comes along.
But while I’m okay with this, other people seem to be bothered by it. Friends, occasional relatives, and even strangers like to offer up dating advice as if I just need to hear the right words and I’ll be able to fall into a wonderful, lasting relationship.
Trust me when I say that’s not the case. First, if it were that simple, it would have happened the first time someone offered up the same advice you’re giving me now. And second, most of the advice isn’t that great anyway.
