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The Relationship Advice I Wish I’d Gotten
Of all the advice I ever got about relationships, it’s what people didn’t tell me that would have helped the most.
I spent years struggling in relationships. I was surrounded by people in successful, happy relationships. Yet my own were often filled with turmoil. I couldn’t figure out why.
It wasn’t until I sat down one day and honestly assessed my past relationships that I finally figured out what the problems were. I realized that for all the good advice others had given me over the years, there were a few nuggets of wisdom it never occurred to them to share.
It makes sense that people in happy relationships wouldn’t think to tell you these things. But someone like me, who has had my share of unhappy and even abusive relationships, does see and learn from these things.
If you’ve found yourself struggling in relationships, maybe one of these is exactly what you’ve been needing to hear.
Never stay for promises
I spent two years in a relationship based purely on the promises my then-boyfriend made. Promises of living together, of getting married, and of raising our children together. Promises that things would get better, that he would fix the problems we…
