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The Opinions of Others On Your Parenting Decisions
Whether they have good intentions or are trying to undermine you, other people’s opinions on your parenting decisions can do a number on you. So what should you do about it?
I have two kids: one is 19 and the other is 16. I am not new to the parenting game, nor am I new to people offering up their advice and opinions on how I parent. While I am fortunate enough to finally be at a stage where people feel less welcome to offer up their thoughts, it does still happen.
Regardless of where you are in your parenting journey, you likely have to deal with it, too. It’s frustrating, sometimes embarrassing, and often uncomfortable. So how can you deal with it in a way that’s productive rather than destructive?
I suggest trying these tricks.
Own your reaction to what they said
Your mom tells you you’re being too hard on your little one. Or your neighbor calls over the fence that you should spank your kid for what they just did. Your immediate reaction is to feel insulted, offended, outraged, or maybe embarrassed or guilty. Whatever your reaction is, own it.
