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Single & Loving It: Stop Obsessing Over Finding Love
They say love finds you when you least expect it, so how do you stop obsessing over it?
The sayings about love are many and varied. One of the most common is the platitude offered to singles who lament the lack of love in their life: You’ll find love when you stop looking for it. It seems silly. After all, you wouldn’t stop looking for your keys or your cell phone and expect it to just magically appear before you. So how does love work that way?
Love works that way because love is not as simple and uncomplicated as keys or a cell phone. Love is about offering something to someone else. If you’re constantly obsessing about finding love, what do you have to offer? If the entire focus of your life is on finding a partner and a relationship, but you have nothing to offer that partner and relationship, what do they gain?
Finding a partner and building a solid relationship is based on two whole people coming together and merging their two lives into one satisfying and unique relationship. How can that happen if you don’t have an entire life of your own? If you’re living a life that exists on the edges of a void shaped like a potential partner?
What do you do when you realize you want to stop obsessing over finding a partner…
