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Managing the Holidays When You’re Divorced
Christmas Eve and Christmas morning get a little more complicated when there are two houses
From Thanksgiving through Christmas, there’s a lot going on. From the actual holidays themselves to the shopping and events surrounding them, there’s plenty to do. And sometimes that means you need to work with your ex to figure out who’s doing what and when with the kids.
It can feel very complicated and confusing sometimes but it really doesn’t have to be. In fact, there are some very simple questions you can ask to cut out a lot of the confusion and stress.
Start with:
What’s legal according to our court order?
The court order and what it says ultimately rules. If there’s a disagreement that lands you back in court, the judge is going to go by the order, not by what you want or even what you agreed to — even if it’s in writing.
But just because the order says one thing doesn’t mean you and your ex can’t agree to do something else. If you get along well enough and can both agree, changing things up so they work better for all of you can be what’s best for the children.
