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Love Yourself Through the Heartbreak of Divorce
Divorce is the worst breakup there is
I’ve gone through some nasty breakups, but my divorce was probably the worst. Part of what makes divorce such an awful breakup is the simple fact that it takes months, if not years, to complete. You can’t just say “I’m breaking up with you” and be done. You have to file legal papers, wait for hearing dates, split material possessions, work out child custody and support and a dozen other things. And then you still have to see them when you exchange the kids or do things for or with the kids.
But what also makes it so painful is that someone you once slept beside every night, who you saw yourself growing old with, who was your partner and had your back on everything, can suddenly become your worst enemy. They’ll tell you what an awful parent you are, what a horrible spouse you were, and take the deepest, most intimate secrets you shared with them and use them against you.
And when they do those things, it feels like they took the sharpest chef’s knife in the world and sliced you wide open from head to toe — over and over again.
Divorce can destroy your self-confidence, self-esteem, self-worth, and self-love. It can leave you wounded, bleeding, and feeling desperate for the love and affection of anyone who’s willing to offer it…
