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Lost Yourself As a Mom? Ask Yourself These Questions
If you feel lost on the motherhood journey, these questions can be a map back to yourself
Becoming a mother changes who you are profoundly. But the mere act of becoming a mom isn’t the end of the changes. With each stage that changes a child, the mother changes too. Your role changes, maybe only slightly, but it can be enough to make you feel lost again.
From the day they’re placed in our arms to the day they move out and have a life all their own, there are many places along the motherhood path where you can end up veering off and losing who you are. This can be especially true if you tend to identify mostly, or even solely, as a mother.
There needs to be more to you than just being a mom. There needs to be a part of you that is just for you — not your kids, or a partner, or friends, or anyone but you. But when you’re caught up in parenting, it’s not always easy to take a step back and find that part.
That’s where these questions come in. Take some time to think about them, journal on them, and see what comes up.
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