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Lessons From a Narcissist’s Love
My worst relationship looked like the best from the outside. It also helped me find myself.
I didn’t know he was a narcissist when I started dating him. I thought we were friends. We’d been friends, I thought, for several years. What better foundation is there for a relationship? Yet even before our first date, I sensed that something wasn’t quite right. A “misunderstanding” meant that our first date didn’t happen when it should have, except as far as I could tell, the communication had been quite clear.
I set that aside and went out with him anyway three weeks later. And that was the beginning of the end.
While I will never thank him for anything he did, I did get some incredible lessons from dating him.
If they seem too good to be true…
He said all the right things. He did all the right things. He was Prince Charming from every fairy tale, and everything he did was completely different from every guy I’d ever dated before — including the one I married. Given that I’d been in two abusive relationships before, it’s probably no surprise that he swept me right off my feet with that.
Yet I can’t deny there was that part of me that felt like it was too good to be true. No man could…
