It’s Time to Free Yourself from Needing the Approval of Others

It’s time to live your life for the only approval that matters: Your own

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Learn to say what you think

If you’re concerned about the opinions of others, you’ve probably developed a habit of keeping your opinion to yourself. You might keep it to yourself entirely or you might just keep it to yourself until you know what others think. Either way, it’s unhealthy. Your opinions matter and you’re allowed to have them — even when they’re not the same as others.

Take the time to appreciate yourself

When you rely too much on approval from others, you also begin to rely on that approval (or lack of) to tell you whether you have value and should feel confident or not. This is, of course, very unhealthy. But you can change this by appreciating yourself.

Remind yourself that it’s impossible to make everyone happy

There are a wide variety of people in the world. So no matter what you do, there will always be someone who doesn’t like you. It’s no joke, there will literally always be at least one person in the world who wouldn’t or doesn’t approve of you and what you do. So why keep trying to please everyone else?

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There’s more gray area than you think

Many people that desperately seek the approval of others believe that perfection is the only thing that pleases others. You’re not going to be condemned (or considered a saint) for everyday words and actions.

Avoid reacting to disapproval in a way that encourages the criticizer

Many people use disapproval as a way to control others. When you apologize unnecessarily or change your opinion in reaction to disapproval, you might be simply rewarding that other person. You’re telling them that their disapproval means something to you and thus, encouraging them to tell you the next time they disapprove.

Before taking an action, ask yourself if you’re primarily doing it to receive approval

What do you do that is solely about getting someone else’s approval? Did you choose your career based on Mom or Dad’s approval? Maybe you bought a house in a specific neighborhood to get the approval of a friend or client? Wear a certain brand of clothing or makeup or started doing a specific workout to impress others? Try to eliminate activities and choices from your life that are driven by the need to have others think highly of you.

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