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Is Moving On Always the Answer?
When you complain about your job, your spouse suggests you quit and find something else. When you vent to a friend about some relationship issues, she suggests you dump him and move on. When you’re irritated by a neighbor, your mom tells you to find a new place to live. Everyone’s solution to a problem is to change it or move on from it. But is that always the answer?
What if sometimes the best solution to the problem is staying right where you are? What if being stuck is exactly what you need right now?
Being ‘stuck’ isn’t comfortable
I get it. When you feel stuck, it’s uncomfortable. You’re probably not happy and you feel weighed down. You might be stressed and even downright angry. You may have talked about the situation until you’re blue in the face trying to resolve it.
It starts in one area of your life and ultimately begins to affect all others. You snap at your family because you can’t tell your boss what you really think. Your work suffers because your relationship feels like it’s falling apart. You start to feel like you’re suffocating because you can’t do anything.
So the solution is to change, right? Change the situation somehow, or change yourself. Or move on from it — quit the job, end the relationship, whatever it is. Just get away from it because…
