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How You Can Help Your Child Adjust to Divorce
Divorce isn’t just happening to you and your spouse
My kids were still very small when my divorce became final. My oldest was just over two-years-old and my youngest was just days old. This was a blessing in the fact that it lessened the impact the divorce had on them. But to say it didn’t impact them at all would be a lie.
There’s no doubt that a divorce can be a strain on every member of the family. Sometimes it’s tough to look on the bright side and see that it can be the best choice for future happiness.
Children are usually hit the hardest by the divorce. If they’re young, they may not be able to fully grasp the subject. Also, no matter what age they are, their first instinct is generally to blame themselves. The helpful news is that you can do a lot to get your child through this tough time.
Consider some of the following tips for helping your child cope with divorce.
Keep an open dialogue
Talk to your children about the divorce. Even if you have some pent-up feelings about your ex, this doesn’t mean that you should shy away from the topic with your child. The worst thing you can do is act like nothing is going on.
- Talk to your child about their fears.
