How to Kill Your Relationship in 9 Easy Steps

These things will destroy your relationship in no time!

Wendy Miller
6 min readApr 1, 2020


When we think of the reasons relationships end, our first thoughts are things like cheating, abuse, addiction, or even simply growing apart. But there are so many other reasons a relationship might end. If you want a healthy, happy relationship, it’s important to know what to look for.

So what do you look for? I think these nine things are a great starting point.

Criticize them constantly

Nothing is worse than having someone criticize you. Unless it’s when they criticize you constantly. When you pick apart every little thing they do and find fault with it, especially when it’s super small, you break someone down mentally and emotionally. The only way this gets worse is when it’s done in front of others so that humiliation gets piled on top of criticism.

We might need to occasionally critique our partners, but it should be done privately and as rarely as possible.

Act as if you’re single

Your first thought here might be cheating, and that is definitely one way to act single and destroy your relationship. But I’m talking about making decisions as if you’re single. From making plans for this weekend to a decision to move across the country, if you’re not consulting your partner first, your relationship will be on the fast track to destruction.

Some decisions will ultimately be yours to make the final call. But when you leave your partner out of every decision, you show them they don’t matter. And if they feel like they don’t matter, they’ll eventually walk away so they can find someone who will think they’re important.

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Avoid conflict and discomfort

No one enjoys talking about a problem in their relationship. Whether it’s minor, like telling your partner that you wish they’d put their dishes in the dishwasher instead of on the counter, or major, like telling them you wish they’d do something different during sex…



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