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How to Keep Your Past From Ruining Your Present
Got issues from past relationships? Here’s how you can keep them from destroying new relationships.
We all have a past. We have a relationship history, complete with mistakes and baggage. And when we don’t take care of ourselves and heal from what came before, we can end up destroying our future with the past.
Of course, there are two people in any relationship. And if your partner isn’t cleaning up their side of the street, things can still go wrong. But if you take care of your own issues, you stand a much better chance of having a healthy, happy relationship that isn’t affected by your past.
How do you do that, though? Here are four simple things to start with.
Be aware of your own “stuff” & how it impacts you
In order to keep your past from affecting your present, you need to know how it would do that.
For example, I know that because of past relationships where cheating was an issue, there are certain behaviors or ways of talking to me that would make me suspicious and think a partner is cheating. By being aware of this, I can put the brakes on when I recognize that my partner is behaving or speaking in a way that would trigger that…
