How Dating in My 40s is Different Than Dating in My 20s
It’s not as simple as picking up where you left off
Dating can be fun regardless of your age. But when I look back on dating when I was in my twenties compared to dating now when I’m 41, there are some major differences.
These differences come from many things. Some of it is simply being older. With experience comes wisdom, as they say, and that wisdom puts a different color on dating.
But it can also be because of lessons you’ve learned from being married and then divorced. It can be because your perspective on what you want from a relationship, or whether you even want a relationship at all, has changed.
So what are the differences I’ve noticed? There are a lot of them and they’re not all bad.
I’m more comfortable declining a date
Whether it’s a guy asking me out for the first time or one hoping for a second or third date, I am much more comfortable declining now that I’m older.
When I was in my twenties, saying no to a date felt rude. Even if I didn’t like the guy, it felt like I was being mean to turn him down for a date.
On top of that, I didn’t really know yet what I wanted from a relationship or a partner. So…
