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How Can I Tell If This Is a Bad Relationship?
Whether it’s deliberate or innocent, we can turn a blind eye to the signs that our relationship is unhealthy or toxic. Here are a few clues to help you honestly assess your relationship.
It doesn’t matter if this is your first bad relationship or the dozenth, or whether you’ve been together a month or a decade. Bad relationships take all shapes and forms. Sometimes, we don’t even recognize that they’re bad. We’re so used to the toxic signs from our own past relationships or those we’ve seen our parents, siblings, and friends in, that they seem perfectly normal to us.
Some people will say that if you have to ask if you’re in a bad relationship, you are. That’s not necessarily the case, though. Again, if we’ve spent our lives surrounded by unhealthy and toxic relationships, we might not know how to tell the difference between healthy and unhealthy — but it doesn’t necessarily mean that we’ve unwittingly ended up in an unhealthy one. We can just as easily stumble into a good relationship.
But it never hurts to do a little checkup and make sure your relationship is healthy. And if you go through the signs and begin to realize that it’s not healthy, it’s time for a change.
