Hi Laura! Yes, that’s exactly right. Most people get focused on finding an exclusive relationship and lose sight of the fact that it means nothing if you’re with someone you’re incompatible with, don’t like, or don’t know well.

I’ve been guilty of it myself. And when I remembered that the goal was not just an exclusive relationship, but one that would last and with a partner whom I could love deeply and have a healthy relationship with, it made a huge difference.

I still haven’t found that relationship, but it has changed the way I date and caused me to look differently at potential partners.