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Good Things Happen When You Start to Ask for What You Want
Instead of crossing your fingers and hoping, try asking for what you want
There was a point in my life when asking for what I wanted was a last resort. I didn’t want to be vulnerable by admitting to what I wanted in case the other person said no. I didn’t want to confirm that they didn’t think I was worthy of what I wanted. And sometimes, I felt like I shouldn’t have to ask — they should just know. And of course, we all know what happens when you think that.
But there was another reason that I sometimes didn’t ask for what I wanted: I didn’t know what I wanted. I wasn’t clear on it so I couldn’t ask for it. And this created a lot of frustration as I felt confused, conflicted, and often neglected — even though it was my own fault.
There is power in asking for what you want. It forces you to know yourself, what you prefer, and what you need. This clarity makes it possible to have a life filled with things you like, and the support that makes life easier and more fun.
The result of asking for what you want is a ripple effect of good things that begin to materialize in your life. A satisfaction builds from living a fulfilled life by being direct and articulate about your needs.
