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Give Yourself Closure
I broke up with my boyfriend of nearly two years about two months ago. More recently, I had to end my friendship with someone I thought was a very close friend after she exhibited some erratic behaviors that made me fear for my safety and that of my family.
In both cases, I had lots of questions. I also wanted an opportunity to say my piece — to say what I thought of their behavior. And in both cases, I was never given the chance to ask my questions or say my piece.
The lack of closure can be frustrating. Not being able to voice your thoughts, much less get answers to what feel like the most important questions in the world, can leave you feeling abandoned, ignored, and mistreated.
You can’t force anyone to have a conversation with you. You can’t force them to answer your questions or listen as you give your version of events. But that doesn’t mean you have to live with them all bottled up inside you.
Get them out of your head
We think that closure comes from getting the answers to our questions or being heard by the other person. But I’m not so sure that’s the case.
I believe we have convinced ourselves that those are what give us closure because we have put so much importance on other people and their opinions. We want to know what the other person thinks of…