Gareth, I’m sorry that you feel you’ve only experienced rejection. I can only see a thumbnail photo of you here, but I would say you seem attractive based on that and your thoughtful response here. So I have to agree that you probably have been checked out and just didn’t know it. Sometimes the signs can be subtle. Women don’t tend to want to wave a neon sign above our heads that says, “Yo, I’m into you!” lol It might be easier for both genders if we all did do that, though.

I do agree with your point that women can be the ones to approach as well. I think we are just as capable of men and if we are interested, we should be as willing to risk rejection as we expect men to be.

The type of woman I was writing about here, though, who are so rude — I question whether they would be willing to approach men they’re interested in. As another commenter said, often women who respond this way are not really in the space for a relationship. They might argue that they are, but if they actually approached a man and the man returned their interest, they might have to face the reality that they’re not really in the space for a relationship. So it’s easier for them to stay in their bubble, harshly rejecting those they aren’t interested in and lamenting the lack of “nice guys” because they aren’t indicating their interest either.