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Finding Your Worth in Being Single
You don’t need a partner to feel great about yourself and your life
Once I started dating, I didn’t stop until I met the man I married. When I divorced him, I started dating a friend within weeks (literally about two weeks) of our divorce being final. Being single, completely and truly alone without even a casual date, was not something I was comfortable with.
In fact, do you know what actually made me stop dating? Motherhood. I had two little boys and when my friend and I agreed we were better as friends, I realized I simply didn’t have time for dating. I was raising my kids without their father, going to school and eventually working full-time. There simply wasn’t time for dating for a while.
For years, that felt weird to me. It felt weird not to date. It felt weird not to be looking for a partner, for a relationship, for a happily ever after.
It felt weird to admit I actually liked being single.
So when my kids were a little older and life had settled down a bit, I started dating again. Naturally, it didn’t work out too well.
It took a long time before I finally accepted that I liked being single and didn’t really want to date. But when I did, it changed everything for me.
