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Do You Know Me Better Than I Know Myself?
What to do when you question your own beliefs about yourself
I was chatting with someone recently when she said something that I found both surprising and interesting.
“I feel like what I think about myself is some kind of fantasy,” she said. “Other people don’t see me the way I see myself. It makes me wonder if I really know myself as well as I think I do or if these other people really do know me better than I know myself.”
The reasons I found this both surprising and interesting are the same:
· She described her lack of confidence in such a way that it was easy to understand
· Her lack of confidence was close to, if not already was, an identity issue
· She was self-aware enough to recognize the problem, yet struggled to resolve it
It’s a problem that many of us either currently have or have had at some point: that lack of confidence in yourself and who you are that makes you wonder if other people might have a better idea of who you are than you do. Where you wonder if you should allow, or perhaps you even go so far as to actually allow, others to define who you are for you.
For some, it’s a form of co-dependency. For others, it’s truly a struggle with…
