Dare to Be Yourself

The real you is so much better than any fake you could ever be

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Meditation quiets the part of you that judges and labels everything around you. It allows you to observe your thoughts and emotions without getting attached to them. And this gives you some distance from yourself, allowing you to get to know yourself and get comfortable with who that is.

Tell the truth

When you’re truthful, you reveal yourself. Being truthful requires being vulnerable, though, and that makes most of us uncomfortable — especially when we’re with strangers or people we don’t know very well. Yet even in those instances, honesty can be the doorway to being who you really are.

Be unique

The true you isn’t exactly like everyone else. What music do you listen to when you’re alone? How do you dress? Do you keep the unique parts to yourself or are you willing to share them with the world?

Notice your crutches and get rid of them

Rocky road ice cream? Mindless internet surfing? A double vanilla café latte? Using crutches to deal with boredom, anxiety or uncertainty is blocking you from seeing the truth. We all have crutches and there’s a reason behind each crutch.

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Examine the areas in your life that feel inauthentic

When and where do you feel like you’re lacking authenticity? Often it will be during interactions with strangers, first dates, new social experiences, and more formal occasions. In those moments, you can feel your fakeness in the plastic smile you wear, the laugh that sounds nothing like your usual laugh, and the clothes you wear.

Spend your time on things you enjoy

What do you really enjoy? Do you play on the softball league so you’ll fit in? Would you rather be taking rumba lessons? Spend your free time on the things that you’re most passionate about.

Do one thing you want to do but are afraid to try

The people at the office might laugh if you take up the cello or take an acting class. However, secretly, they’ll be jealous that you have the nerve to do something unconventional. Everyone you know is stifled and bored. You can rise above all of that.

Give your opinion

Not necessarily all of the time; but give your opinion if it won’t hurt anyone. Going to see a movie with some friends? Tell them the movie you’d most like to see. The family wants to go to the public pool or the park? Let your opinion be known.

Get outside

An indoor environment is unnatural. The air is heated or cooled. The lighting is artificial. You can’t see the sun, hear the birds, or feel the grass beneath your feet. Get yourself into a more natural environment and you’ll find it easier to be authentic.

Strengthen your boundaries

Where your boundaries are weak, your true self is being smothered. These are the places we allow others to determine the rules and set the frame. You’ll know these places by the high amounts of energy they drain from you. When you identify them, get to work on strengthening them.


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