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Breakup Aftermath: What to Do to Get Over It
While time may be the great — and perhaps only — healer, there are some things you can do to start getting over your breakup right away.
I broke up with a long-term boyfriend about eight months ago. Well, let’s be really clear about what it was. I broke up with what was, from my perspective, a long-term boyfriend. Based on his actions, he probably only saw our two-year relationship as a casual fling or maybe merely a test of his acting skills to see if he could make it in Hollywood.
Either way, for me it was a very difficult time. But there were a few things I found that helped me get over things a little more quickly than I might have if I hadn’t done them. These are my best tips for beginning to put the pieces back together after a breakup.
Feel all of it
Breakups are messy, painful, difficult things. There are tears, hurt feelings, anger, urges for revenge (and maybe even murder), and so much more. Some people might tell you to try to ignore those feelings, distract yourself from them, and feel better feelings.
That’s good advice — later. In the beginning, in the days and weeks immediately after the breakup, you need to feel all those bad feelings. Feel the…
