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Are You Delaying the Inevitable Breakup?
Some relationships just aren’t meant to last but you still struggle to let them go.
I’ve been in a few different relationships where I knew breaking up was inevitable and yet I couldn’t bring myself to do it. I knew we didn’t love each other anymore, or that they were treating me badly, and still I stayed.
It tends to be a pretty awful feeling, living in a relationship you know is over. You try to pretend to be happy, as if you don’t know the end is looming in the not-so-distant future, but it doesn’t work.
You’re wasting time, energy, and sometimes false hope on something you know just isn’t right. There might not even be anything bad. Your partner might be a great person, and the relationship itself isn’t bad. It’s just not right for you.
It’s not what you want.
But when we do this to ourselves, sometimes we’re good at convincing ourselves. We’re able to make that false hope so real that we persuade ourselves we just need to give it time, trudge through this rough patch and get to the other side.
So how do you know if you’re delaying an inevitable breakup? Try asking yourself the following questions.
