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9 Ways You Can Support Your Friend During Her Divorce
We all want to be there for those we love but sometimes we just don’t know what to do
I remember when I was going through my divorce. I had friends, good friends that I knew loved and cared about me. But when I search my memories of those days, those friends don’t pop up a whole lot. You might take that to mean my friends weren’t there for me — but they were.
They just didn’t always know how to let me know that or what to do for me. So they were around, they were ready to be there for me — they were just waiting for me to be the one to let them know what I needed.
In some situations, that not only works but is even ideal. But when it comes to divorce, it almost never works. The emotions and frustrations of divorce can leave you so exhausted, wounded, and confused that you couldn’t even begin to articulate what you need — and that’s if you even know what you need. Because the truth is, sometimes you really just don’t know what you need.
If you’ve never been divorced, here’s what you need to think about. Your friend is having to make a lot of decisions about what she needs and/or wants: material possessions, child custody, child support, spousal support, where she’ll live, possibly changing jobs or returning to work, and so…
