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8 Signs You’re Being Too Picky About Dating

If you do these things, you might be sabotaging yourself in love and relationships.

Wendy Miller
8 min readJun 5, 2020

Dating can be fun and exciting or it can be a chore you dread. You might enjoy the thrill of dating as a hobby itself or you might see it as nothing more than a necessary evil to find the relationship you want.

Either way, you can also be too picky about your potential partners. We say don’t settle, and you shouldn’t, but there comes a point where you cross the line from refusing to settle into being too picky.

But what is too picky? What does it look like and how does it differ from refusing to settle?

Look at these eight signs. If you feel like they’re describing you, you’re probably being too picky.

You have “all or nothing” thinking

If you’re being too picky, you have an “all or nothing” approach to dating. You have a list of wants, expectations, or outright requirements. If the person you’re on a date with doesn’t meet every last one of them, you cross the person off your list and move on.

We all have expectations of a partner. Not settling means finding someone who meets most of them or who makes you so happy that you’re willing to ignore what they…

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Wendy Miller
Wendy Miller

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