6 Reasons I Don’t Want to Get Married Again

I still want love, I just don’t want the legal entanglements

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I was married for a brief three years when I was in my early twenties. I had two children as the result of that marriage. Upon getting divorced, I was initially quite certain that I wanted to get married again. So certain, in fact, that I also knew I wanted my second spouse to adopt my sons when we did get married.

As time went on, however, my feelings slowly began to change.

First, it was just that my kids were older, so adoption no longer seemed as important. Then I began considering the changes I wouldn’t make when I got married again. My last name, for example — I had taken back my maiden name when I divorced and wouldn’t change it again.

But now, almost two full decades after my divorce, I’m not interested in marriage anymore. I still enjoy being in a relationship. I still want love and commitment. But marriage just isn’t something I need or want these days.

Here’s why.

I want the easy way out

I know some people are going to see this as being less committed. That if I want it to be easy to leave, then that means I’m not committed and will jump ship at the first indication that things aren’t all…