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8 Actions That Block Intimacy
Whether it’s physical or emotional, these actions can stop intimacy in its tracks.
Intimacy is important in romantic relationships. Physical intimacy is one of the things that separates a romantic relationship from all the other relationships in our lives. And emotional intimacy is often key to wanting to engage in physical intimacy.
Yet there are things we do that put the brakes on intimacy. These actions are turn-offs in small and big ways. Sometimes they’re things we do out of habit from past relationships or because we saw other people do them and thought they were normal. Other times, we don’t realize they’re a problem until or unless our partner brings it to our attention.
Consider whether you or your partner guilty of any of the following actions, and if you are, how you can change them to bring more intimacy to your relationship.
Lack of reciprocity
Reciprocity doesn’t necessarily look like cooking breakfast for your partner because they cooked breakfast for you. It might be cooking dinner for them, or changing the oil in their car, or doing their laundry. It might be bringing them flowers.
If one partner is always doing for the other, and the favor is never returned, eventually they get…
