6 Self-Care Things You Shouldn’t Do

Sometimes the best self-care is what you don’t do.

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Don’t care what other people think

We can waste a lot of our lives worrying what other people think of our clothing, our body, our relationships, and every other aspect of our lives. But why do we do that? Does their opinion really matter that much to us? Does it change anything?

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Don’t let your inner bitch run the show

We all have an inner narrator. And most of the time, she’s not very nice. She likes to try to tear us down, tell us how awful we are, how unliked we are, how inept we are. And it’s all too easy for her voice to become the loudest voice in your head.

Don’t punish yourself

No one is perfect. We all make mistakes. We all fail at things. And many of us like to punish ourselves for those mistakes and failures.

Don’t spend time with energy vampires

We all know those people who make everyone around them feel good, vibrant, and alive. And we also know those people who seem to suck the life out of a room, who exhaust you after just five minutes together, and make you feel down and even angry.

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Don’t live with an “all or nothing” approach to life

We often equate the idea of giving our best with an all or nothing mentality, that giving our best means giving it our all and if we can’t do that, then we shouldn’t do it at all. This is an excellent way to get yourself caught in a cycle of exhausting yourself seeking perfection or procrastinating on big tasks and projects — or life in general.

Don’t give in to FOMO

We can easily overextend ourselves, and thus exhaust ourselves, by giving in to fear of missing out (FOMO). We don’t want to miss out on fun experiences, conversations with friends, a promotion at work, a life experience that others cherish, and so we agree to things without even thinking about them.

Self-care is for you

The most important thing to remember is that self-care is for you. You don’t have to justify what you do or don’t do. You don’t have to explain it to anyone. And you don’t have to change it to please someone else.

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