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5 Steps to Recover From Being Cheated On
Whether you stay together or not, you still need to recover
The thing about cheating is that, unless you’re going to handcuff yourself to your partner and literally spend every second of every day of the rest of your life at their side, you can’t prevent it. If someone wants to cheat, they will. You don’t have a choice.
Where you do have a choice, however, is in what you do after someone cheats. And the choices you make in response to being cheated on make a difference between whether you recover or whether you live in misery for years because of something you didn’t do and had no control over.
My ex-husband is the first person that I can specifically recall cheating on me — but he wasn’t the last. I recall him so clearly, though, because we were married and because I was pregnant the first time I found out he cheated.
Yes, I said the first time I found out. I stayed with him for a few more years and through other toxic behaviors before I finally left.
But the time wasn’t wasted. Because when it was all said and done, there came a point where I realized what I should have done differently. And now I want to share that with you so you can save yourself some unnecessary pain and heartache.
