4 Keys to an Honest and Successful New Relationship

When you start a new relationship after a divorce, there are a few things that can start things off right

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Share the reasons why your last relationship ended

It’s not only fair, but also important for your new dating partner to understand what caused the breakup of your last relationship. This is especially true if you’re to blame. Your honesty and candidness will be appreciated.

Discuss what you’re looking for in this relationship

Try not to paint a false picture of your expectations. Your new friend might feel flattered to hear that you see a “lifelong mate” in them but be honest about wanting to take things slowly if that’s where your head is. And if a lifelong relationship isn’t what you’re looking for, or if you want commitment but not marriage, speak up and say so. The only people this chases off are the ones who don’t want the same thing you do — and that’s a good thing.

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Divulge your strengths and weaknesses

It’s natural to want to put your best foot forward when being courted by someone new, but the easiest way to lose that person’s trust is to portray yourself as somebody you’re not. Show a willingness to reveal your weaknesses, as well. Vulnerability goes a long way in inspiring the trust of others.

Avoid sacrificing your morals or standars for love

Even if you feel your new love interest is the biggest blessing, it’s important to be honest about certain issues you can’t tolerate or those that might be deal breakers. Trying to pretend you’re okay with something that bothers you will only bring about resentment and frustration — both of which lead to misery and very likely, a breakup.


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