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18 Red Flags You Might Be Tempted to Ignore (But Shouldn’t!)
Whether it’s the first date or the first anniversary, these are red flags to walk away from
I spent years ignoring red flags in favor of finding someone with whom I could have a relationship. Whether that relationship was healthy or toxic, happy or miserable, abusive or negligent, was irrelevant to me. I just wanted the relationship.
It took a long time for me to work through all the crap that made me that way. But once I did, I could clearly see all the red flags I’d deliberately ignored. I knew then how easy it would have been to avoid so much heartache, pain, and misery.
The problem is I’m not the only one who did that. You might still be doing that. And if you are, becoming aware is the first step. Once you know the things to look for, you can walk away from them.
And here’s the key with these: these are not things you have to wait to see until you’ve been dating for months. These are things that you can see as early as the first date. And if you see them, don’t give in to the temptation to overlook them. If you see them, especially on one of those early dates, walk away.
And even if it takes more than a few dates to see these red flags, walk away anyway. No matter how great…
