Relationships are complicated. One day we’re madly in love and happy, the next we’re considering a breakup. You want to break up but then your partner looks at you that certain way and you’re head over heels again.
When your feelings are all over the place and you don’t know whether to stay or go, making the decision to end a relationship can be very difficult.
And sometimes it’s actually simpler than we make it. Sometimes the reason is there in front of our face and we just need to acknowledge it.
Consider these reasons for ending a relationship.
You aren’t happy and haven’t been for a while
Relationships have phases. There are ups and downs. You’ll go through periods where it feels boring, stale, unhappy, and maybe even bad. But in a healthy, good relationship, we can recognize that these are phases that happen and work through them.
But what if you’re unhappy and it’s not changing? There’s a passing phase of unhappiness and then there’s being truly unhappy. If you feel like you’re truly unhappy, it’s a reason to leave.
When you look at the relationship and can’t remember the last time you were happy or you can’t think of anything good about being in the relationship, when even the thought of your partner makes you miserable, it’s time to walk away.
The relationship (or your partner) makes you feel bad about yourself
If your relationship or your partner makes you feel insecure, unworthy, insignificant, or otherwise bad about yourself, it’s a reason to leave.
A partner and the relationship we have with them should lift you up. It should make you feel good, happy, confident, and worthy.
It doesn’t matter if it’s deliberate or just the natural combination of the two of you together. If it makes you feel bad about yourself, end it…